Did etiquette die?

Posted: May 9, 2013 in Family
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Okay, this post is going to be a rant of sorts.

Lately I have been irritated by everything and everyone who lacks manners. I was raised to have them. There is a time and a place for craziness. I am not however, a hoity toity manners type person. But I believe that the basics should be followed without exception.

1. No elbows on the table.
2. No burping, farting or other bodily functions at the table (this includes blowing your nose)
3. You wear black to a funeral. Period. Nothing else is acceptable. Period.
4. Deaths should not be posted on the internet until after the immediate family has been contacted. I believe that a 24 hour waiting period should be honored. This allows time for family to contact family to contact close friends etc. They should also allow 24 hours for posting anything about it as well.
5. Death should always be announced via your voice. This is not optional. A facebook event should not be created. Again, not optional. No texting this either. Call, it allows a very personal piece of information to relayed personally.
6. Take your hat off when eating.
7. No cell phones at the table, at weddings, at funerals etc.
8. Never wear white to a wedding unless you are the bride.
9. No beer at funerals, and the cooler should be left in the car. (yes, I have witnessed this! Ya, I know, shocking!)
10. Never, never, never pull out of the funeral procession, flag attached to your car, and pull into a corner store to purchase ANYTHING! Really! (Yes, I have witnessed this as well)
11. Say please and thank you and you’re welcome.
12. Say yes ma’am and yes sir to all those older than you.
13. Hold a door for a lady, anyone with equipment to help them move, and offer assistance if needed.
14. When waiting anywhere for anything, if a pregnant woman, and elderly person or person with an injury walks in, always stand and offer your chair, unless you too are one that has been listed.
15. Stand for the national anthem, hand over heart. I don’t care what your beliefs are, its a respect thing. You are here, show your respect.
16. If there is a prayer, regardless of your beliefs, either bow your head and join in, or be quiet. They are not trying to force you into a new religion, relax. It’s respectful of others to allow them a moment or two of silence. They would do the same for you.

Maybe I’m old school. Maybe I was raised by the last generation who believed that these things were important. Maybe I’m holding on to a world that no longer exists. Maybe I’m a dying breed. I don’t care either way really. These are important to me, I will raise my children to see them as important and I will spend the rest of my life trying to get my husband to see them as important too.

I look around the world today and I wonder if etiquette died. Will it be something our grand children learn about in museums and history books? Will the royal family be the only ones still using it, or will the new generation of leaders taking on these roles dismiss them as well as society? I hope not.

  1. The Cutter says:

    Not sure I agree with #12. Some people do not want to be addressed in that manner. But some good points here.

    • jeepnmom says:

      I think you’re right. Number 12 is diverse geographically. In some southern states its expected. My dad was from one of those states so that’s how I was raised. My boys have not been raised with the same expectation but I wish they had.

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