Archive for May, 2013

Did etiquette die?

Posted: May 9, 2013 in Family
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Okay, this post is going to be a rant of sorts.

Lately I have been irritated by everything and everyone who lacks manners. I was raised to have them. There is a time and a place for craziness. I am not however, a hoity toity manners type person. But I believe that the basics should be followed without exception.

1. No elbows on the table.
2. No burping, farting or other bodily functions at the table (this includes blowing your nose)
3. You wear black to a funeral. Period. Nothing else is acceptable. Period.
4. Deaths should not be posted on the internet until after the immediate family has been contacted. I believe that a 24 hour waiting period should be honored. This allows time for family to contact family to contact close friends etc. They should also allow 24 hours for posting anything about it as well.
5. Death should always be announced via your voice. This is not optional. A facebook event should not be created. Again, not optional. No texting this either. Call, it allows a very personal piece of information to relayed personally.
6. Take your hat off when eating.
7. No cell phones at the table, at weddings, at funerals etc.
8. Never wear white to a wedding unless you are the bride.
9. No beer at funerals, and the cooler should be left in the car. (yes, I have witnessed this! Ya, I know, shocking!)
10. Never, never, never pull out of the funeral procession, flag attached to your car, and pull into a corner store to purchase ANYTHING! Really! (Yes, I have witnessed this as well)
11. Say please and thank you and you’re welcome.
12. Say yes ma’am and yes sir to all those older than you.
13. Hold a door for a lady, anyone with equipment to help them move, and offer assistance if needed.
14. When waiting anywhere for anything, if a pregnant woman, and elderly person or person with an injury walks in, always stand and offer your chair, unless you too are one that has been listed.
15. Stand for the national anthem, hand over heart. I don’t care what your beliefs are, its a respect thing. You are here, show your respect.
16. If there is a prayer, regardless of your beliefs, either bow your head and join in, or be quiet. They are not trying to force you into a new religion, relax. It’s respectful of others to allow them a moment or two of silence. They would do the same for you.

Maybe I’m old school. Maybe I was raised by the last generation who believed that these things were important. Maybe I’m holding on to a world that no longer exists. Maybe I’m a dying breed. I don’t care either way really. These are important to me, I will raise my children to see them as important and I will spend the rest of my life trying to get my husband to see them as important too.

I look around the world today and I wonder if etiquette died. Will it be something our grand children learn about in museums and history books? Will the royal family be the only ones still using it, or will the new generation of leaders taking on these roles dismiss them as well as society? I hope not.

HELLO READERS! As you may have read, I am a slacker who is trying to change. Here is my first attempt.

I’ve decided that I’m going to name my weekdays as a reminder of what needs to get done that day. (Outside of the normal chores of course.)

Mommy Mondays
Trashy Tuesday
Washroom Wednesday
Throughways Thursday
Finance friday
Shopping Saturday
Funday Sunday

What this means to me:

On Monday’s, they suck the most, I am not required to do anything outside of normal chores. Don’t ask, the answer is no!

On Tuesdays I will clean out the fridge of uneaten left overs and accidental science projects, empty all of the trash cans in the house and haul it all out to the road for pickup early Wednesday morning. That will keep the fridge clean and the bathroom trash cans from over flowing.

On Wednesdays its clean the washrooms day! Yeah! NOT! But cleaning the bathrooms is something that needs to be done weekly in my house in order for them to look and smell sanitary. (I am the only girl in the house) I started this one last week, it took 2 nights to clean the master bath. This week I don’t think will be that bad. The boy’s bathroom, I think I need a biohazard suit! YUCK! Boys are G-R-O-S-S!!!

Thursday is the day I will run through the house as a “guest”. Any where I might go will get a quick pickup. This process starts outside. I want my guests to be greeted outside with a tidy welcoming feeling. (My garage is where everyone comes into my house, it needs an overhaul bad! Winter was far too long!)

Finance Friday means that I need to get the business paperwork done for the week. I will be playing catch up for a while but I will overcome!

Shopping Saturdays is not all fun and games. I know, major bummer. This is to remind me that I need to pick up groceries every week. And, as Sobomama keeps telling me, spend my budget every week and eventually my budget can go down.

Sunday is for family fun. Spending time with the boys doing whatever comes to mind.

This may seem silly, but if I can keep in mind that these are the things I need to get done outside of dishes and laundry and vacuuming etc. Maybe it will be easier for me to keep up. Do you have any suggestions for me? I’m open.